Someone has asked, “How do I win back the trust of someone, after I have spoken badly about him, without intending to?”
I believe that the only way to earn back the trust, after having apologized and explained, is by continuing to love. Generally, a lot of patience is required in such cases.
There should be three gatekeepers to speech. Before one speaks, one should ask oneself:
1) Is it true?
2) Is it necessary?
3) Is it compassionate?
There is so much heart-ache one would save oneself if one were to follow these simple rules. However we are human, and while the party, sometimes takes long to forgive, let us be more generous with ourselves, by forgiving ourselves and promising , that we will not commit the same mistake again.