Relationships

The first solution to all problems is:

Effective Communication:

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Never say: ‘it is your fault’

Remember no one is perfect but you must bring out the best in one another.

Everyone has different expectations, values, weaknesses and strengths.

Study his and be aware of yours.

Learn to compliment and compromise with each other.

I was reading: True compromise does not mean giving in or giving up. It means a settlement made by mutual consent, which involves concessions on both sides.

It is good management rather than good luck that makes a relationship work.

You must not compete, compare, and control. And you must never never bring past hurt, past mistrusts into the relationship.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you’ve got to learn to close one eye. I have heard that for a marriage to succeed the husband must be a little deaf and the wife a little blind!

In the deep spiritual sense, only you are responsible for your pain and happiness.

Before you ‘blame the other’ look deep within yourself and develop self esteem.

Manipulation, control, jealousy are a definite no no.

What is yes yes?

Communication. Communication need not be something ‘heavy’ It can be a phone call, a touch, a hug….)

Cultivate trust, and a sense of humour.

Get away for a meal, holiday. Do it

Do not communicate when angry.

Look at the plus points in your relationships.

You do not have to agree on everything…you can love intensely despite…

You must allow each other to grow

Speak your mind clearly and gently

Do not ask ‘How was your day?’ ask specific Qs.

Remember ‘men come from Mars and Women from Venus. We may not be able to understand each other fully, but we can still love.

Celebrate the difference and complement one another.

A great marriage is not when the perfect couple comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy the differences’