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I was reading about ‘marriages’ and I came across these points:
- Someone can behave badly and still be understandable.
- Someone can love deeply and still hurt the person they love.
- Someone can be intelligent and still be terribly confused.
- A marriage can be loving and still have regrets.
- Two people can love each other and nevertheless be unable to make a life together.
- And sometimes there simply isn’t one person to blame.
Where does your marriage fit in?
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- Nisha says:
This is called the irony of marriage it’s quite quirky & strange but it’s true…It’s an amalgamation of all this & more everyday teaches you something & with a right attitude one tides through it all …hence we are here to learn grow & evolve 🙏
Roshni says:
Marriages and indeed relationships are so unique. - 3.
- Deepika says:
Marriage is a surrender …n an adoption of the unknown.One needs to flow like water and adapt to the newness n still keep on adapting as so will your partner.Its a rosey Rose 🌹 with the thorns.
Just let the Rose bloom without touching the thorns…once you prick it takes days to heal.
Be grateful for the soulmate God has gifted you….n play along once you are one without words nothing else matters…
I, shakun
have often wondered why our scriptures speak of the pativrata woman as possessing great spiritual power. Perhaps one reason is that a truly committed marriage can itself become a form of tapasya.
To remain loving and loyal to another human being, knowing that he is not perfect, requires patience, forgiveness, restraint, acceptance and the surrender of one’s own expectations. It means learning to love a person as he actually is, rather than as we wish him to be.
That inner discipline can become tapasya. And tapasya, when undertaken with awareness and without resentment, can generate tremendous inner strength and spiritual power.
This does not mean that a woman should silently endure cruelty or injustice. Dharma cannot mean destroying oneself. But where there is an ordinary human being with ordinary faults, and a woman chooses to respond with understanding rather than constant resentment, perhaps that very process transforms her.
So perhaps the spiritual power attributed to the pativrata is not a reward for merely remaining married. It is the power that can arise when love, loyalty, self-discipline and surrender are practised through the difficulties of marriage.
In that sense, marriage can become not merely a relationship, but a sadhana.
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Aasha says:
Yes was about to expand on this. I think in marriage it works both ways. It’s an equal partnership involving give and take.
Give love , respect, patience and support and receive the same from your spouse. I feel now the days of wife surrendering to husband are long gone, it’s a mutual unspoken commitment to each other, accepting the flaws and the virtues of the other partner with a good sense of understanding and love. Only then can you nurture this lifetime relationship.
I also believe that some degree of adjustment is necessary in every relationship if we want it to work. No two people are exactly alike, and living together inevitably requires understanding, compromise and the willingness to accommodate each other.
I Shakun believe:
In fact, adjustment is a part of life whether we are in a relationship or not. If we have a partner, we learn to adjust to another person. If we live alone, we learn to adjust to our own circumstances and to the absence of a partner.
Perhaps the real question is not whether we have to adjust, but what we are willing to adjust, and what we should never compromise. We can adjust our habits, expectations and preferences, but we should not have to compromise our dignity, safety or fundamental values.
Life is not about having everything exactly as we want it; it is about learning to live gracefully with what life gives us. 😊
Shakun Kimatrai 