Mantra for a Marriage Partner

(Courtesy Rohini Gupta)

1) Kama is the god of love, and this is his Gayatri. It is used to attract a relationship, a marriage partner or love into your life. it is very powerful and effective.

One mala a day is usually required.

Here is the marriage mantra :

Om kaamdevaaya vidmahe
Pushpabaanaaya dhimahi
Tannonangaa prachodayaat.

This is the Kaamdev Gayatri and is for the marriage of both sexes. I mean a man who wishes to get married can also chant this mantra.

There are so many factors that contribute to when a marriage will take place. Do your best, pray, chant your Mantras, and leave the rest in God’s hands.

A Reader asked:  Can this mantra  be used to bring back your spouse who has got distracted by someone else ?

Rohini’s reply was: 

Not really, it is to attract romance or marriage into your life. you can ask for happy relationships but it is not aimed at a  particular person.

2) The following Mantra asks for a husband, hence it is to be recited only by women. It is meant to attract the right man into your life.

“Om triyambakam yajaamahe sugandhim pativedanam

urvarukameva bandhanaanito  moksheya maamrutaha”

3)  Katyaayini Mahaa Maayey

Mahaa Yoginya Dheeshvaree

Nanda Gopa sutam

Devi patim mey

kurutey namaha

In the above Mantra one prays for a very lovable and understanding husband.

Recite it 5 times daily at least.

Once you know it by heart, recite it all the time.

Maybe Krishna will come in human form for you.

Q  What is the significance of this mantra and when to chant this. What are the benefits of this mantra and if chanted when will this show its effect.

Niradhara Marie rplies:

Om kaamdevaaya vidmahe Pushpabaanaaya dhimahi Tannonangaa prachodayaat.

You can chant this mantra at any time but after a bath or shower is best.  Light an incense and candle or ghee lamp to focus your attention.  Use a mala to count 108 times. 

The sincerity of the chanter and the time and attention devoted to the process will determine the outcome.  a mantra trains the mind.  man = mind and tra = training (as for protection and strengthening the mind)  this is Sanskrit, the ancient language of the science of vibration of sound – it is the grandmother of NLP  neuro-linguistic pathways.  it is metaphysics not magic.  As your brain chemistry changes from the chanting, your energy fields (kosas) changes and affects the energy of your partner whose body also undergoes these positive changes.  The willingness and openness of your partner will also have a determining factor.  So no definite time frame can be given.  Trust in the process and  OM Shantih.

LOSSARY (Pronunciation)

A Like in ‘but’

Aa Like in ‘Far’

Ai Like in ‘hair’

Ey Like in Whey

I Like in ‘Pin’

Oo Like in ‘Shoot’

Oon ‘n’ has got a nasal sound.

U Like in ‘Put’


Sanskrit believes that the sound of the word never gets ruined and that it has an everlasting value.

Words in Sanskrit open out from their seed (beej) form.

A root is always a single syllable that contains one of the basic sounds a, I, u, ri

The root or seed may create a word, yet the word will vibrate to its best, and gives it tremendous power.

The Vedic or the Sanskrit view gives more importance to the special sound it should produce, than to the meaning of the spoken word.


In Spiritual parlance, we are often told to ‘surrender’

What does ‘surrendering’ mean?

I once read that if you have a chipped tile on your ceiling that irritates you.

You can do three things.

You can change the tile, change the room, or accept the broken tile.

In Life, one also has 3 options:

1.      Change what one does not like.

2.      Give up what one does not like.

3.      Accept what one does not like.

This ‘acceptance’ is called ‘surrender’

You will be surprised to learn that many will not take any of the 3 options given above. And you know why? Because they prefer to continue playing the martyr. People like to talk ad nauseam about the problems they have in their lives. Give them the above 3 options and they will not take any because they will not take responsibility for their lives and the outcome of their actions.

Ask yourself: “Are you enjoying what you are doing?”

The reason why you are not enjoying what you are doing may be, because your attention is more focused on the result of your action rather than on the act itself. Which means that you are living more in the future than in the present moment.

Accept the act of the moment. Give it your full awareness! And leave the result at the feet of the Almighty.

Contrary to popular belief ‘surrendering to the situation’ does not imply weakness.

Accepting the role of a martyr does.

The use of brakes is more advisable to save oneself, rather than stepping on the accelerator and charge headlong into a disaster!

Resistance to what is (After having done ones best to change it) gives rise to stress and pain.

This does not mean that one should not do, what one should be doing to improve the situation. But if there is nothing more that can be done on ones part, this moment, then one must go for a walk and enjoy the breeze and the butterflies!

I heard in a lecture : “Jab log poochhey ki kyon hai, to hanskar javaab do, ki bas yoon hai”

Loosely (not literally), it implies to accept the present moment.

When people ask: “Why me?” I say   “Why not you? Who has said that you have immunity towards this problem?”

In the Bhagvad Geeta  Krishna expounds the Supreme Philosophy to Arjuna.

After having explained in detail about the various Paths of Spiritualism: Gyaan (Knowledge) Bhakti (Devotion), Karma and Dhyaan (Meditation). Arjuna is still not clear about his path of action. Krishna then, urges Arjuna to have full faith and surrender.

Krishna promises:  

‘Sarva dharmam, parityajya, maamekam sharanam vraja,
Aham twaa sarva paapebhyo, moksha yishyaami maa shuchah’

Which means: 

Resign all duties and take refuge only in Me.
Grieve not, for I shall absolve you from all sins!

Please note that Krishna wants Arjuna to wage the war, Krishna does not wish that Arjuna ‘escape’ the situation. Krishna advises Arjuna to fight to the best of his capacity and surrender the results to the Lord.

Even in the pursuit of Spiritualism, a pilgrim reaches a point of ‘surrender’

(The following is an excerpt from Shree Morari Bapu’s series of discourses called Nisaadhanta, which I have translated)

‘When a pilgrim feels he has failed after trying every prescribed means to reach the Lord, he cries out in despair. Tears well up in his eyes, and he feels the pangs of separation from the Lord.

He now feels he can do nothing more in his sadhana (Spiritual Pursuit).

This feeling of helplessness when all means fail, Mahaprabhuji calls ‘Nisaadhanta’. Bhagwan Ramanuj calls this state ‘Tap’ and it is called ‘Vyaakulta’ by Caitanya Mahaaprabhu. The devotee now consciously surrenders to the Lord.’

One can surrender to whatever each moment brings. If the moment brings pain or fear, also do not resist it. Watch it and feel it. Without judging.

I have read that negativity is dark. Your Consciousness is light.

Light and darkness cannot coexist.


 The following prayer I received printed on a paper with a photograph of Satya Sai Baba (I do not know who it was written by. Shall be happy to give credit, to who it is due)


Painting by Krishn Kanhai

 Why get agitated? Let Me take care of your business. I shall be the One who will think about them. I am waiting for nothing else than your surrender to Me. I intervene only when you know how to completely surrender to  Me, then you do not have to worry anymore about anything. Say farewell to all fears and discouragement. You demonstrate that you do not trust Me. On the contrary, you must rely blindly on Me.

To surrender means: to turn your thoughts away from all your problems. Leave everything into My hands saying : Lord! Thy will be done, Thou think of it. That is to say :Lord I thank You for You have taken everything in Your hands and You will resolve this for my highest good.

Remember that thinking of the consequences of a thing is contrary to surrender; that is to say when you worry that a situation has not had the desired outcome. You thus demonstrate that you don’t believe in My love for you. You will prove that you don’t consider your life to be under My control and that nothing escapes me.

Never think: how is this going to end? What is going to happen? If you give into this temptation You demonstrate that you don’t trust Me. Do you want Me to deal with it, yes or no? Then you must stop being anxious about it. I shall guide you only if you completely surrender to Me and when I must lead you into a different path than the one you expect, I carry you in My arms.

What seriously upsets you is your reasoning, your worrying, your obsession and your will to provide for yourselves at any price. I can do so many things when the being, as much in his material necessities as in his spiritual ones turns to me saying; You think of it, and rests quietly closing his eyes. You will receive a lot, but only when your prayer will fully rely upon Me. You pray to me when in pain so that I will intervene, but in the way you desire it. You do not rely on Me, but you want Me to adjust to your requests.

Don’t believe like sick ones who ask the doctor to treat, all the time suggesting the treatment to him. Do not do that, but rather, even in sad circumstances say: Lord! I praise and thank you for this problem, for this necessity. I pray to you to arrange things as You please for this terrestrial and temporal life. You know very well what is best for me.

Sometimes you feel that disasters increase instead of diminishing! Don’t get agitated. Close your eyes and tell Me with faith: Thy will be done. Thou think of it. And when you thus speak, I even accomplish a miracle when necessary. I only think of it when you trust Me totally. I always think of you, but I can only help you completely when you rely fully on Me.