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Nisha says: Detachment in today’s time and age is a little impossible ..realistically speaking, but keeping the balance of not overdoing anything or under performing your responsibilities & duties is possible …it’s like
walking on a rope one can not fall this way or that way, we just need to be balanced and focused all the way in every way.

Sapna says: Detachment is doing your deeds and leaving the rest to time…
In healthy detachment we let people do what they want
We enjoy moments without clinging to them

But it doesn’t mean we stop loving people or what we have
We do care but no expectation in return
We enjoy stuff but even if we lose, no complaints.
This all comes with a lot of practice of training our inner self.
Basically we need to remember that nothing is permanent… what has come will go

Even beauty health wealth power all can slip …
So best not to be attached and live with the feeling it’s all given to me By HIM snd so long I can enjoy I will be in gratitude 🙏
If it goes His Will…

I , Shakun agree with Sapna, but I also agree with Nisha. It is not very easy to give up attachments and as Sapna says, that we must not stop loving people to get rid of attachment.
It is like I always say, do not throw the baby with the bathwater.
I remember what Swamiji used to say to me. I used to tell him that I am very attached to my children. He insisted I was not. I insisted back that I was. Then he said to me
I do not see you clinging to them. I do not see you running after them. Maybe you are concerned when they are unwell or they have an issue at hand. But that does not mean that you are attached I mean YOU. You can never be attached. It is the mother in you that is attached or is concerned when your children aren’t well. It took me a while to understand what Swamiji was saying.
Dear readers, do you understand what I’m saying?

Maya says replying to an earlier post : Living in a Temple reminds me of the song “Dil ek mandir hai. Pyar ki jisme hoti hai Puja, woh Pritam ka Ghar hai”
Meaning, our heart is like a Temple in which we pray to Krishna ( God) who is the love of our lives.
So in today’s times we don’t have to literally live in a temple. We should make our heart pure as a temple in which resides our beloved (God)
As far as going to the forest is concerned, I am happiest being away from the world, in total detachment in my own room. It is the outside moh maya which makes us miserable.
Life is so simple. We make it complicated 😊
Roshni says : Yes, I do understand what Swamiji said concerning the mother in you is attached, not you: Basically, it’s what the mind identifies with that creates the attachment. So the mind gets identified with the role of a mother and thus gets attached to its creation(the children) etc
Vindya says: Yes I truly understand
Thank you for the enlightenment 🙏
Nisha says : Yes i do understand, YOU per se are not attached to your children but the mother within you is …it is expected from the feeling of a mother it is called MAA KI MAMTA…this feeling is just expected from any mother …its very normal…
Mani says:
You are the permanent Atma , the eternal witness . You have to play 100 roles and more and more with each lifetime and all the different roles at that . Therefore you the eternal witness is actually witnessing the role, and experiencing all that is attached you’re playing that role. You have to excel at your art of being an actor, nothing more when the curtain falls you go back to the person you are .
Mitwa says: Love your children. Feed them. Pray for them. Worry when they’re sick.
That’s mother. That’s warm, necessary, human,
Attachment is clinging to outcome. “You must live near me.” “You must make me happy.”
Keep the love. Lose the leash.
Keep the concern. Lose the control,
Keep the gratitude. Lose the ownership!
And I Shakun say:
We are supposed to drop the identity with the body and all its roles… remember Neti Neti? Which says I am not the body I am not the mind. I am not my thoughts, so I guess what Swamiji meant besides all that you have said Above is also detach yourself from the role of the mother, and remember that the worry also belongs to the role of the mother. But continue loving continue to care …Amen 🙏

Aasha says :
🙏🙏 it’s all about Loving your family and your near and dear ones, it’s human nature to worry about them and we will always continue to do so even after our kids have their own kids. Let’s keep our love for the Lord above all and these worries will fade away and vanish over time 🙏🙏
Huri says : HARIOM easier said than done just love without expectations…
Nisha says: attach but don’t be attached
detach but don’t be completely detached
love but don’t suffocate with your love
care but don’t be careless about it
appreciate but don’t get carried away
this is the irony of life …
you are always walking on a thin line and still being careful of not crossing any boundaries 😃
Meeta says:
Shakun ji…
Swamiji threw one stone in the lake:
“Mother in you is attached, not you”,
And look at the ripples, Shakun ji:
And then, —
You closed the circle.
“We are supposed to drop the identity… Neti Neti…
…detach yourself from the role of the mother,
and remember that the worry also belongs to the role…
But continue loving, continue to care…
Shakun.. that’s a masterstroke!
Don’t throw the baby with the bathwater,
Means: Don’t throw love away to get rid of attachment,
Love your children. Feed them. Pray for them. Worry when they’re sick.
That’s mother.
Attachment is clinging to outcome. “You must live near me.” “You must make me happy.”
That you throw.
Keep the love. Lose the leash.
Keep the concern. Lose the control,
Keep the gratitude. Lose the ownership.
And you?
You got it.
It took a while — like you said
Because Kaliyug teaches “love = attachment”,
But Swamiji taught “love = freedom with responsibility.
Detachment isn’t coldness,
It’s love without chains,
It’s mother without ownership, Shakun ji.
And I , Shakun say:
Happy Mothers Day !

Yesterday
Huri said:
“Love without expectations — easier said than done”,
A friend remarked: Kaliyug trains us backwards.
Says “If you love, you own”
The fact is that Love was free before we nailed it.
I, Shakun always thought that you could have an influence over your children for at least 18 years, but I believe that the scripture say that we have an influence only for 13. Also another mistake that we parents do is tell them to respect others when in a home they see parents not doing so.
I have learnt that children learn not so much from words as From actions seen at home when they were children . I always wondered if when a child sees misbehaviour from the father/mother and it hurt the mother/father , why would he emulate the behaviour when he grew up? I realised that as a child grows up, he believes that that is the way to behave.
I still find it hard to believe but that seems to be the case. As for me, my mother had a difficult life, widowed early. But she was spiritual and I did not hear her Constantly complaining. So I guess the child in me realised that the way to be was to have faith and to be happy even when the glass was half empty. And I am told that being grateful is the mother of miracles happening.
What do you think?

Aasha says: It’s so true you mostly grow up with childhood memories of how you saw your parents mom/ dad interact with their parents… you emulate because that’s all you have seen and you think that what they talk or behave is the best way. Whether it’s being strict, being spiritual, loving their parents or otherwise being harsh with them… we do what we have seen thinking it’s right behaviour! Later when we can form our own opinions we are already deep into those sanskars!
Meeta says:
“Children
We tell child: “Respect others”,
But child sees Papa shout at Mama,
Child sees Mama roll eyes at Dadi,
Child learns: “Respect = word I say, not thing I do”
: “Why emulate hurtful behaviour?”
Because child brain is camera,
Not judge,
It records: “This is how big people survive”
Hurt or not — it’s the only map they got.
Later they use map.
Even if map leads to pain,
Because unknown path feels scarier than painful known.
Viveeta says:
Yes being grateful is is a precursor to miracles because when one is grateful it’s a form of surrender to God . We leave it all upto Him and our burden is lightened , thereby enhancing our performance , which leads to miracles in our lives .🙏
Nisha says:
I can’t emphasis enough on being Grateful …it’s the highest & purest form of grace to God for all that he has done …and also for showing you right from wrong ..Gratitide is the best
vitamin for the soul.
As for the child following the parents footsteps by observing them is absolutely true …these things are not preached it’s practiced …hence the child is the the complete blue print of his parents …hence parents should tread carefully, because their children are always watching …think before you speak, think before you do & always have the right intentions at all times not for just your kids but for yourself too .
Malu says:
I feel one has to feel gratitude not just say it.
Yes . All of grow up seeing & following. Good & not so good..
Prayers & spirituality in my understanding is a great anchor , however once we understand where our needs/ behaviours are stemming from the gyaan that we hear is easier to accept & apply where required.
Once I deal with my pain & wounds , I am more open to seeing & understanding different views.
Sapna says :
I too believe being grateful is the best we can live with..
the more we are grateful for the more reasons HE will give us to be grateful for.
I saw my mother as a widow .. simple lady .. busy with children but V v fond of movies 😜n her children & her in-laws .
She never ever complained. She was a widow at the age of 39
we children have seen how even small things in life can give u joy .. it’s our mental attitude if we want to see we can find 100 things to be grateful for or to complain…
Infact every evening I write my gratitude.. I have an app it sends me notification at 6 pm .. so I never ever fail…
Grateful gratitude for this class also which is reminding many things n making me learn too
Grateful to you DIDI 🙏🙏
And I , Shakun feel grateful to all of you for coming thus far with me and making me part of the satsang each morning 😊❤️

Dear Sapna, many asked for the gratitude app which you use , and I shared it with them. Thank you
And Malu says:
I am very grateful for our meeting & the path its taken.
Om Sai Ram
Asha says: Gratitude becomes grateful when one is honest , simple & sincere. We must Thank people who help us …….
Appreciate the food we get in hand. Notice small Happy moments & we feel thankful all the time. Every morning I get up I speak to God & Thank him for all the luxury he has given us. & little pain here and there Remind us of Him. “ Oh God ! “ Sapna I like your attitude Of keeping a daily Thanku Journal. & Yes a Big ThankU to Shakun for sharing such Beautiful thoughts.🌺🙏🌺
And I Shakun say Thankyou to all my readers …
And the next verse of Bhaj Govindam says :
One may take delight in yoga or bhoga, may have attachment or detachment. But only he whose mind steadily delights in Brahman enjoys bliss, no one else.

A well read Guru takes us a step upwards and explains it thus:
“One may take delight in yoga or bhoga, may have attachment or detachment. But only he whose mind steadily delights in Brahman enjoys bliss, no one else.”
In simple and simple terms,

Yoga or bhoga : Two ways people live,
Yoga = spiritual work,
…Meditation, prayer, giving up things,
Bhoga = worldly joy
…Good food, family, music, comfort.

People think: “If I do yoga, I’ll be happy.”
Others think: “If I enjoy life, I’ll be happy.”

Attachment or detachment = Two ways people hold things,
Attachment = “This is mine, don’t take it”
…Clinging to children , house, praise,
Detachment = “Nothing is mine, I’m free”
…Letting go, living simple.

People think: “If I hold tight, I’ll be safe.”
Others think: “If I let go, I’ll be free.”

But verse says,
You can do yoga all day or eat sweets all day,
You can hold tight or let go completely,
Still no guarantee of real happiness,
Why?
Because happiness isn’t in what you do,
Happiness is in where your mind lives.
So who is really happy?

“Only he whose mind steadily delights in Brahman enjoys bliss”
Brahman = God, Truth, That which never changes,
Like sky behind clouds…
Dear readers, have you got the point?
I believe that this is basically neti neti
When One tells oneself, I am not the body, I am not mind. I am not attachment. I am not detachment . Listen to the song with lyrics on YouTube: Chidananda roopaha Shivoham Shivoham 🙏